2020 has been a most unusual year. Events have been canceled, travel plans rerouted, closings, and many other things we have always been able to enjoy seem to be just good memories. And, like many other parts of life, weddings have definitely looked different. However, sometimes being different is nice…for instance in writing your own wedding vows.

Writing your own wedding vows is not anything new. But that doesn’t mean it is a simple process to write the vows that encompass how you feel and what you promise to do for each other as you begin your future together. In fact, trying to express yourself in a way that shows some personality while expressing your love for each other can be harder than one might think.

Instead of finding yourself wondering why you thought writing your own vows was a good idea, here are some tips to help you craft vows that exemplifies who you are as a couple.

Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Writing your own vows is a beautiful way to express yourself and have a memorable wedding day- no matter what might be different in the world around you! Use these tips to make it easier to write your own wedding vows. 

Wedding Vows “I do”

  1. Plan ahead. Start work on your vows several weeks- or even months- in advance and plan to have them ready no later than 3 weeks before your wedding date. Consider writing 2-3 versions of your vows and then review them a few times to help you craft the perfect set.
  2. Make eye contact with your partner.  Be sure to look at your soon to be spouse as you say your vows. Failing to do so can make for some awkward pictures.
  3. Make a list of all the things you might want to include. When you begin writing your wedding vows you can highlight the items that are most important to you.
  4. Look for laughter. While you can’t share every story, promising to ‘kill all the spiders’ or ‘never serve tofu’ are a great way to break up a moment before it gets over-sentimental.
  5. When you have your vows perfected, write or print them on fresh paper. Or, for a more formal look, consider reading them from a vow book.

Wedding Vows “I Don’t”

  1. Don’t make the vows too emotional or too filled with inside jokes. Both of these can make it difficult for you to maintain your composure.
  2. Don’t lose them! Have several copies printed of your vows and give a copy to the officiant, your maid of honor, and the best man, as well as your wedding planner. This way you can be sure that there will be a copy on hand if you forget your copy in the hustle and bustle of the wedding day prep.
  3. Don’t try to include everything on your list.
  4. Don’t use words like “never “and “always”. The perfect marriage takes work and promising perfect can sabotage you.
  5. Don’t let your SO see the vows before the ceremony! Secrets can be fun, and to get the biggest impact for your vows, keep them a secret from your soon to be spouse until they hear them in the ceremony.

Have additional wedding planning questions or concerns? No worries, the team at Gala Events Facility is here to help. Contact us today.